Growing up is not at all just being happy about getting your dreamy job, but it is much more than that!!
Everyone says growing up is an amazing journey, it teaches us so many things but is it true?
Growing up is just a nonsense definition of *How to face the upswings and downswings of life* like seriously, and more often, just the vicious downfalls of life!
It sucks how now and then every individual keeps on explaining how to be a mature adult but nobody emphasizes what we are losing in the process of being an adult! A child is as pure as the dew that filters through the rose. (—Oliver Wendell Holmes)
But, what makes a child impure is the *adult world*
The hypocrisy, the jealousy, the depression, the OCD, the negativity.
All of these emotions and feelings are being taught by the adults as a part of socialization. And as we all grow up, year by year the charm of birthdays start fading away, the cakes start getting smaller, the gifts become few then numerous, birthday dinners start to be more like a burden than a joyous occasion. Confetti seems monochromatic rather than colorful. Easter, Eid, Halloween, New Year, Carnivals, Holi, Diwali all seems to fade away as we grow up. The excitement, the enthusiasm, the intensity all evanescence away!! Why? Why can’t adults as well have a little kiddish side inside them? Why can’t adults laugh hard and act like everything’s okay? Why can’t adults dress up just because they want to?? Why does every child suffer in the form of growing up? Why?
Just like every white color turns black when it mixes with other colors similarly, this is what the *overly experienced aka more mature adults do to teenagers or kids.
I’m not against the process of growing up, as it’s a given! It’s a fact hence proven process but why can’t we help each other in this process? Why are we always neglecting the inner desires or the self satisfactory components of life? Why an adult thinks that as a child our ideas and our thinking will always be wrong. NO! IT’S NOT WRONG. WE ARE NOT WRONG! YOUNG GENERATION IS NOT WRONG! Please as adults don’t overvalue yourself and don’t underestimate kids.
We as kids or as teenagers have different thinking skills, have different perceptions, have different mindsets. Please stop showing dominance over everything. Have the audacity to listen and understand others’ mindsets as well. Please, please accept rejection. That’s what growing up is.
You as a grownup think you’re giving the best to your child, and no doubt your love and care is the best thing in this whole world but please have the tendency to ask your child if he/she is happy with what you are providing them? If materials can make a person happy then why stay in a relationship? Why maintain kinship? Please, before providing something best to your child ask them once, are materials the reason behind there happiness or the smell of grandma’s house? Or the traditional dishes? Old use books with scribbled and untold stories? Doll with broken legs and colored faces?
Make it or break it, is a very pragmatic analogy for life either it is for children or adults. To make something its always important to break it. To make your child mature you all have to break your immature supremacy because, in the end, you are just showing how irrelevant is the point of growing up! For a time being your child might even hear you out but after some days he or she will consider you as someone who keeps on nagging him or her just because you have the power to do so, and then your words won’t even make a difference to them.
So to all the adults out there, I’m not against you people, I know how hard it is for you to handle and build your kids up and I understand how you as well face unassertiveness but try being a friend once, try helping out the one who’s new to this cycle of growing up because you never know what the other person is feeling.
Let your experience be handy enough to bring a smile on someone’s face!